Focus On Yourself And Your Own Growth

People's behaviour always reflects their relationship with themselves.

They can only meet you as deeply as they can meet themselves. They can love you only to the level they love themselves, understand you to the same level they understand themselves, and communicate to the level of their self awareness.

"If you are willing to change your perspective and look at another person's behaviour towards you as a state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will over a period of time, cease to react at all."

~ Yogi Bhajan

Do not take anyone's behaviour personally ! It always speaks about who they are, not about who you are.

Equanimity is always a good thing. This does not mean the death of our empathy. Yet when unconditional love is present, someone may treat us unkindly, and we may choose to step back or walk away—while still holding love in our hearts.

Sometimes, we may even choose to extend that love without attachment to any outcome. In doing so, we prevent bitterness from taking root within us and from spreading outward into the world. That is a double gain. And perhaps—just perhaps—that love may reach the other person too. Who knows ? But that depends on them and the state of their relationship with themselves.

In the end, everything is learning. Absolutely everything.

If you approach life with enthusiasm for growth, then every experience—even the difficult ones—can be seen as a challenge placed before you to help you evolve. In that light, nothing is truly negative. Every challenge becomes an opportunity. Every obstacle becomes a teacher.

Focus on yourself and your own growth.

© Alternative Approach to Music: Inspiring - Healing - Empowering, Xenia Elizabeth Zilli

Image (lineart and background): Lotus Mandala from the book 'Colouring Book of Patterns, Volume 3: Lotus Mandalas'. ©Xenia E. Zilli